Stop letting high-conflict family dynamics run your life.

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This 6-week small-group intensive will help you navigate high-conflict family relationships, stop getting pulled into the same painful patterns, build boundaries you can maintain, and reclaim your emotional well-being without trying to wait for your family member to change.

 

Through practical teaching, personalized emotional regulation tools, and supportive group work, you will learn to respond more intentionally, trust yourself, and create a life that isn't dominated by family conflict. Just in time for the holidays, you’ll develop a personalized plan to assess triggers, stop or ease spiraling, communicate and set boundaries with loved ones, feel more grounded in yourself, and feel empowered to change your side of the relationship.​

 

• You can love your family without losing yourself. Learn to navigate difficult family relationships with less guilt, greater self-trust, and boundaries that protect your emotional well-being.

 

• Less spiraling. Less guilt. More control over your own life. Learn to recognize your triggers, stop getting pulled into the same conflict cycles, and respond to difficult family interactions with greater clarity and confidence.

 

This is a small-group experience for adults navigating high-conflict family relationships who are tired of the emotional exhaustion, second-guessing, guilt, and a constant feeling of being on edge. 

 

Stop getting pulled into the same painful family patterns. Start protecting your peace without losing yourself in the process.

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Is this group right for me?

 

This group is ideal for you if you have a recurring, emotionally draining relationship with a high-conflict family member or loved one. That person might be a spouse, parent, sibling, adult child, in-law, another relative, or even close friend. The family member may have a formal diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or histrionic personality disorder (HPD), borderline personality disorder (BPD), may be suspected of having one, or may simply exhibit recurring patterns of blame, volatility, manipulation, boundary violations, or conflict in the relationship.

 

You may not necessarily be looking to end the relationship. You may love this person deeply. You may feel obligated to maintain contact. You may share holidays, caregiving responsibilities, children, family events, or a wider family network. And so you're looking for strategies to accept them for who they are while supporting yourself and changing the way you show up in the relationship. You're seeking to find more grounding, more understanding, and more confidence in holding boundaries that protect you and save the relationship. 

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You have likely spent years trying to figure out how to handle your difficult family member, wondering what to say, what not to say, how to avoid the next blowup, and how to stop letting the relationship affect so much of your life.

 

Maybe you have a parent who turns every disagreement into a personal attack.

 

Maybe you have a sibling who seems to thrive on conflict and somehow always makes you the problem.

 

Maybe you have an adult child whose reactions leave you walking on eggshells.

 

Maybe you have a family member with a narcissistic or histrionic personality adaptation who leaves you feeling confused, guilty, or emotionally depleted after even the simplest interaction.

 

Maybe you’ve tried explaining yourself, setting boundaries, keeping the peace, or simply ignoring the behavior. And yet, somehow, you keep finding yourself in the same painful cycle.

 

Maybe you question your own perceptions after conversations. Maybe you rehearse what you’re going to say before you see them. Maybe you dread holidays and family gatherings. Maybe you feel guilty for wanting distance from someone you’re supposed to love.

 

And maybe you’re tired of hearing that you just need to communicate better, be the bigger person, or remember that they’re family.

 

You can understand that someone has their own struggles and still recognize that your relationship with them is affecting you.

 

You don’t have to convince someone else to change before you can begin changing your own experience of the relationship.

 

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In The High-Conflict Relationship Reset, we’ll work on recognizing the patterns that keep you stuck, managing your emotional responses, establishing boundaries, and learning how to navigate difficult interactions without automatically abandoning your own needs.

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The goal isn’t to never feel triggered. It’s to stop feeling like every interaction dictates how you feel, what you do, and how you experience the rest of your life. Wherever you are in your journey of trying to come to terms with your relationship with your loved one, we'll help you get in touch with your own patterns, needs, and boundaries. 

 

 

 

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When we're in a relationship with a loved one with a High-Conflict Personality we have our own inner dynamics that keep us stuck and suffering. At the core, what you’ve been experiencing in is:

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• Hypervigilance: You anticipate the next reaction, criticism, accusation, or family blowup.



• Rumination: You replay conversations and spend hours wondering what you should’ve said or done differently.



• Self-doubt: You question your memory, judgment, intentions, or right to feel upset.



• Guilt: You feel selfish when you say no, take space, or stop accommodating the other person.



• Boundary struggles: You know you need to set limits, but enforcing them feels scary, exhausting, or cruel.



• Emotional reactivity: You get pulled into arguments, overexplain, shut down, appease, or occasionally eventually explode.



• Relationship spillover: The stress follows you into your marriage, friendships, parenting, work, or everyday life.



• Grief: You’re struggling with the difference between the family relationship you have and the one you wish you had.



 

Yet you’re competent, thoughtful, and function well in other areas of life. However, you have parts of you that are people-pleasing, overly-understanding and empathic, and tend toward over-giving in relationships. It's these parts of you that need understanding and tending to. Finding ways to rebalance your side of the relationship, gets you out of the struggle. You stop playing these particular roles that seem to bring out a version of yourself you don’t recognize or enjoy. You reclaim what is yours and understand what isn't.

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What you’ve probably already tried:

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• Read books and listened to podcasts about narcissism, high-conflict personalities, and toxic family dynamics.

• Tried communicating more clearly or calmly.



• Set boundaries, only to struggle when those boundaries were challenged.



• Explained yourself repeatedly in hopes of finally being understood.



• Tried ignoring the behavior, only to remain emotionally affected by it.



• Considered low contact or no contact, but felt conflicted.



• Talked to friends who don't understand the dynamic, kept telling you to move on, or gave you uninformed advice such as, “but it’s your dad.”

 

What you’re hoping for:

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• Fewer arguments, and... 

• You want to stop organizing your life around another person’s moods. 

• You want to receive a text without your stomach dropping. 

• You want to attend a family gathering without spending 3 days preparing for it and 3 days recovering. 

• You want to say no without writing a 5-paragraph explanation. 

• You want to enjoy your own life without feeling that doing so makes you a bad spouse, daughter, son, sibling, parent, or friend.

• You want more practice with strategies you’ve struggled with, but work. 

• You want to feel like yourself, even when your family member isn't happy with you. 

• And perhaps most importantly, you want to trust yourself again.

 

What makes this group different from what you've already tried?

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• You don’t have to prove how difficult the relationship is. This is a space where participants can share their experiences without spending the entire conversation convincing someone that the dynamic is painful.



• The focus is on what you can change. Not fixing, diagnosing, or managing the other person, but changing your own responses, boundaries, and decisions.



• Understanding isn’t the same as tolerating. Participants can develop compassion for a family member without excusing harmful behavior or sacrificing your well-being.



 

What we’ll work on together:

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Over 6 weeks we’ll focus on helping you understand why this relationship gets under your skin the way it does, and more importantly, how to experience it differently in your everyday life. We’ll cover things like:

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• ​Feeling grounded instead of spiraling before each phone call or visit.

• Understanding why one comment from your loved one can send you into a tailspin.

• Quieting the voice that keeps asking, "What did I do wrong this time? Maybe I am the problem."

• Walking into the gathering without obsessing over what the person thinks of you and what you'll say or do.

• Having conversations with your loved one that don’t leave you feeling worse and ruminating.

• Letting go of the guilt that shows up every time you need space for yourself.

• Feeling like you again instead of feeling consumed by being the bad guy in the relationship.

 

What you'll receive support on each week:

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Week 1 — Understanding the Dynamic

Recognize the patterns without getting lost in analyzing the other person.

Explore recurring conflict cycles, emotional triggers, and the ways you’ve learned to adapt to the relationship.

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Week 2 — Getting Out of the Spiral

Work with the emotional aftermath of difficult interactions.

Learn to notice activation, interrupt rumination, and regain steadiness before deciding what to do next.

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Week 3 — Boundaries Without Guilt

Learn to protect time, energy, and choices.

Practice identifying limits, communicating them clearly, and deciding what do when those limits aren't respected.

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Week 4 — Communication Without the Emotional Hangover

Stop getting pulled into conversations that go nowhere.

Explore concise responses, disengagement, navigating difficult conversations, and when not responding is the healthier choice.

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Week 5 — Family Pressure, Roles, and Relationships

Navigate divided loyalties without losing yourself.

Address guilt, triangulation, family expectations, and how to maintain other relationships without being drawn into every conflict.

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Week 6 — Reclaiming Your Life

Build a sustainable plan for moving forward.

Define what a healthier relationship looks like for you, identify non-negotiable boundaries, and create a plan for future triggers and setbacks.

 

If you’re ready to change your experience of your high-conflict relationship, please reach out.

 

 

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